Gay asexual dating site
I’d sit up writing comments on the website until stupid o’clock in the morning.’ AVEN now has about 50,000 to 60,000 members around the world, who chat on its online forums as well as meeting up in person, and even dating through the site.The founder, David Jay, a 30-year-old scientific researcher from San Francisco, says that human asexuality started to be hypothesised by scientific researchers in the 1970s and 1980s, but that it has only been in the past decade that a community of people started to identify with the term. The first major book on the subject, Understanding Asexuality, by Prof Anthony Bogaert, of Brock University, Canada, has just been published and this summer the first worldwide conference on asexuality was held in London.She had come across a newspaper article about asexuality, which led her, in turn, to AVEN.'It was just so wonderful and liberating that there were other people who felt as I did, and [to know I wasn’t] a freak anymore.For Anwen Hayward, a 20-year-old student at Aberystwyth University, it was when her twin sister got her first boyfriend at 17 that she thought, 'Hang on, I’m a bit different here.’ She explains: 'When you’re in school and university, everyone’s really focused on relationships.I never wanted that at all.’ At first she thought she was a slow developer, or a lesbian, but then she heard about the global online community for asexuality, AVEN (the Asexuality Visibility and Education Network).” I try to explain it’s not because I’m interested in someone else; I’m just not interested.’ How would she feel if he had an affair?She confesses, 'Sometimes I have thought to myself that maybe it would be a good idea.’ Some people argue that there’s no need for a label for every orientation.
Although she has had normal sexual relationships (and now a marriage), she says she doesn’t understand what it means to be aroused: 'My sister talks about having an itch or something like a need; the word “horny”.Anwen defines herself as a romantic asexual and says she would be open to a romantic relationship with a man or a woman.